“Sex Addiction” (Out-of-control Sexual Behavior)

“Sex Addiction”

(Out-of-control sexual behavior)

Some clients worry that their sexual behavior is out of control. Our culture likes to refer to this as “sex addiction.” The term usually refers to a pattern of sexual behaviors that are problematic, distressing, resulting in negative consequences and are difficult to stop. Despite efforts to stop, sexual behaviors and urges continue resulting in feelings of despair, helplessness and overwhelm.

I work with two sets of clients with these symptoms. The first are those who describe their behaviors as compulsive, compelling and difficult to resist. These clients have more negative consequences. For example, the man that gets caught looking at sexual imagery at work and loses his job.

The second group are those that are erotically uncertain and confused. They are both drawn to and repelled by the same desire. Their sexual behaviors are distressing, but not necessarily compulsive. This client might have a sexual fetish that is very exciting, but he fears this fetish would never be tolerated by his spouse.

The question for the client is “What is your conflict with your sexual behavior?
Some clients diagnose themselves. Others are diagnosed as sex addicts by their partners, ministers, employers, family members or the culture at large.

Sex Addiction

How do you know if this is you?

Have you had any of the following consequences?

  • Preoccupation with sexual thoughts or behaviors that interfere with your primary relationship, family, work or recreation?
  • Making promises to stop your sexual activities, only to find yourself unable to keep that promise?
  • Engaging in sexual behaviors conflict with your values?

Is your sexual behavior resulting in:

  • serious relationship problems
  • financial difficulties
  • lying to loved ones
  • unplanned pregnancies
  • sexually transmitted infections
  • suicidal thoughts or attempts
  • separation or divorce
  • diminished work capacity

If so, sex therapy may be the answer you’ve been looking for. Our most current research shows that a combination of individual and group therapy are very effective in treating these clinical symptoms.

The first step would be to make an initial appointment to see if sex therapy is the best intervention for you. There is no charge for that session if you decide not to continue.

If you do proceed to the next step, a formal sexual health assessment, you will be charged for the first session at that second meeting.

This is not a condition that you need to live with for the rest of your life. Sex therapy is effective in sustaining long term change.

 

Call or email today to book your initial appointment.