Paying for Sex

Paying for sex is a topic that elicits strong feelings from people. These behaviors include paying sex workers (prostitutes), phone sex, escorts, dominatrix’s, erotic massages, strip clubs, etc.  Any sexual encounter that includes the exchange of money for sexual services.

Pleasure is the topic that often gets missed in these conversations. Most sexual behaviors result in a feeling of pleasure. If they didn’t, there wouldn’t likely be repeated. Sex therapy understands the element of pleasure.

The clients I see have figured out how to experience pleasure. However, it often comes with a price. Clients want to know how to experience pleasure and not feel bad about it afterwards. They want to have sexual experiences that are consistent with their personal values.

Are sex workers being exploited? Is it truly consensual?

These are not easy questions to answer, and there are strong opinions on both sides of this debate.

My role is to help you clarify your own sexual values so that you can make choices that leave you feeling good about yourself. Those choices need to include ethical ways to experience pleasure as well.

Do you have a vision of sexual health? Can you imagine a sex life where you’re able to have satisfying sexual experiences that are alignment with your values?

This is what sex therapy can do for you.